Check out Daytona boots, they add height, I love mine. As for gear, its been trial and error for me. I have kevlar jeans and also textile riding pants which zip down to mesh. I have some Klim gear and not too crazy about the ladies Altitude pants, there were no pockets, the leg openings are too wide and the knee armour isn't adjustable, I ordered for my leg length and the knee armour sits on my shin, so they hang in the closet. I have a firstgear jacket and it has worked well, my textile pants are tourmaster. Good blog to check for women's gear is Gear Chic, she has lots of great info on women's gear.